I often use the term "wildish self" within my work and this statement draws inspiration from Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés, a renowned Jungian psychologist and author of "Women Who Run with the Wolves." It refers to that untamed, instinctual, and intuitive part of ourselves that is often suppressed or ignored in the process of societal conditioning. Embracing our wildish self means to be your authentic self, to embrace your passions, creativity, and unique qualities that make you stand out from the crowd.
The wildish self is not about being reckless or impulsive; rather, it is about finding the courage to follow your inner knowing and listen to the whispers of your soul. It invites us all to sync with the rhythms of nature, explore our hidden desires, and live authentically, even if it means challenging the status quo.
I have come to believe that reclaiming your authenticity is one of the keys to leading a fulfilling and meaningful life.
Understanding Authenticity
So, what does it really mean to be your authentic self or what I like to call the Wildish self? Authenticity, in essence, refers to being true to yourself and embracing who you really are, without fear of judgment or societal pressures. It is about acknowledging your thoughts, emotions, values, and desires, and expressing them in a genuine and unapologetic manner. When we are authentic, we open ourselves to vulnerability and embrace our imperfections, realizing that they are an integral part of what makes us human.
As human beings, we often find ourselves navigating a world that imposes expectations and standards upon us, urging us to conform to societal norms. In this pursuit of belonging, we may lose sight of our true selves. Leading to a sense of emptiness and disconnection from our core being. However, the path to authenticity invites us to peel away the layers of conditioning and discover the essence of who we are – our Wildish Self.
Benefits of Embracing Your Authentic Wildish Self
Inner Peace and Contentment: When we embrace our wildish selves, we align with our true purpose and values, leading to a sense of inner peace and contentment. We no longer feel the need to wear masks or pretend to be someone we're not.
Improved Relationships: Authenticity fosters genuine connections with others, as it allows us to relate to them from a place of honesty and vulnerability. Our relationships become deeper and more meaningful.
Enhanced Self-Acceptance: Embracing our wildish self helps us accept all aspects of ourselves, including our perceived flaws. This self-acceptance leads to increased self-esteem and self-worth.
Unleashing Creativity: Authenticity ignites the spark of creativity within us. When we let go of the fear of judgment, we are free to explore new ideas and express ourselves in unique ways.
Cultivating Authenticity
Self-Reflection: Take time to explore your thoughts, feelings, and values. Engage in self-reflection to understand what truly matters to you and what brings you joy.
Spend more time outdoors: Whether it's a walk in the park, a hike in the woods or a camping trip, being outside can boost your mood, lower your blood pressure and improve your immune system. Plus, you'll get to see and hear more wildlife, which can be soothing and inspiring.
Learn a new skill: Instead of scrolling through social media or binge-watching Netflix, why not try something new and challenging? You could learn how to forage for edible plants, make a fire without matches, build a shelter or identify animal tracks. These skills can help you feel more confident and self-reliant, as well as more connected to nature.
Join a community: Rewilding is not just about you, it's also about others. You can find like-minded people who share your passion for nature and adventure, and join them in activities that support rewilding efforts. For example, you could volunteer for a conservation project, join a wildlife group or start a rewilding club in your neighborhood.
Be more playful: Rewilding is also about having fun and letting go of your worries. You can unleash your inner child and be more playful in your everyday life. You could play games with your friends or family, make up stories or songs, dance or sing, or just be silly and spontaneous. Playing can help you relax, express yourself and bond with others.
Follow your curiosity: Rewilding is also about exploring and discovering new things. You can follow your curiosity and learn more about the natural world and yourself. You could read books or watch documentaries about wildlife, visit a museum or a zoo, or go on an adventure to a new place. You'll be amazed by how much there is to learn and enjoy.
Practice Mindfulness: Mindfulness helps us become aware of our thoughts and actions in the present moment. It allows us to observe any self-limiting beliefs and gently release them.
Embrace Vulnerability: Embracing vulnerability is an integral part of authenticity. Be open to sharing your thoughts and feelings with trusted individuals, fostering deeper connections.
Let Go of Comparison: Avoid comparing yourself to others. Remember that your journey is unique, and your wildish self deserves to shine without the burden of comparison.
As I conclude this reflection on authenticity and embracing your wildish self, I encourage you to embark on this transformative journey. Embrace your uniqueness, celebrate your passions, and listen to the call of your heart. In doing so, you will discover the boundless joy that comes from living life authentically, and you will inspire others to do the same. Remember, authenticity is not a destination; it's a lifelong quest, and each step you take brings you closer to the true essence of who you are – your wildish self.
So, let us release societal expectations and bravely step into the wilderness of authenticity, for it is in this untamed territory that our true self thrives. Let your wildish self roam free, and watch as the world becomes a canvas on which you paint your unique and authentic masterpiece.
This is not a journey you have to take on your own. Share it with those you trust, lean into the discomfort of revealing hidden bits of you and reach out if you feel you require more support. This process of reclaiming your Wildish Self is deeply embedded into my one on one coaching program. I believe that this journey requires a truly holistic approach meaning that we reclaim, reveal and remember who you are in all aspects of life. Who you are mind, body and soul.